One thing I'd like to teach women, is that when they're Dating on Your Terms, they don't need to sell themself short just because they want to date somene. A lot of times women go out on a date, they like the person, and because they want to make sure they get a second date, they put out. They think they need to give in to his desires, impatient rush for affection, kisses, or passionate foreplay.
One thing thats for sure, if theres a good connection between you and a guy, and the relationship is going to work, you're not going to have to put out the first time you get together. The saying goes, "the faster you go in, the faster you come out". And a lot of times the relationships that start out of sex, they end up staying together because of obligations, children, responsibilites or they don't feel they have the freedom to express their truth, or be who they truly want to be.
That's a horrible kind of relationship to be in!
You're better off, waiting for the right match. Not doing anything your heart isn't telling you to do.
Checking to make sure you're truly compatible.
There's alignment on all the things you want alignment to be on.
You've checked off the boxes on your wish list and he/she meets all or almost every single one of those check marks.
You have things in common.
You could see bringing this person home to meet your parents/family.
Of the things that you don't like, they still don't bother you too much (they're manageable).
When it comes to dating, don't rush to get somewhere just because you think thats what you're supposed to do.
If you can't be yourself, get out! If you feel judged for being your natural authenic self - say bye bye!
For the women who are looking for love, and feel they have to have it even if it means being with someone you just dont like all that much, my heart is with you. What you really need is a hug, and maybe some emotional coaching to get through your feelings. Theres nothing you have to do to prove to anyone that youre good enough, youre pretty enough, sexual enough, thin or good looking enough or smart enough. All you have to do is be yourself!
If who you're dating pushes you or doesn't honor whats important to you, its their loss, not yours!
You matter! Your heart matters! Your feelings matter. Your values matter and your beliefs matter. If you feel like they're being pushed under the rug, you might want to push him (or her) under the rug too!
One thing I'd like to emphasize when it comes to women navigating the dating scene, particularly in the context of Dating on Your Terms, is the importance of self-worth and not compromising on one's values for the sake of securing a second date. It's a common scenario where women feel pressured to engage in physical intimacy prematurely in a relationship just to maintain the interest of their date. However, it's crucial to understand that a genuine connection with someone doesn't hinge on immediate physical gratification.
It's often said that rushing into physical intimacy can lead to a shallow foundation for a relationship. The adage "the faster you go in, the faster you come out" rings true in many cases where relationships built on purely physical attraction struggle to sustain long-term depth and meaning. Such relationships may end up being sustained by external factors like obligations or fear rather than genuine emotional compatibility.
Entering into a relationship solely based on physical intimacy can trap individuals in a cycle where they feel constrained to express their true selves or pursue their aspirations freely. This can create a stifling environment that hampers personal growth and fulfillment.
Being stuck in such a relationship can be detrimental to one's well-being and sense of self-worth.
It is far more rewarding to wait for a connection that aligns with your values and desires. Listening to your heart and ensuring compatibility on various levels before committing to a relationship is essential for long-term happiness and fulfillment.
Compatibility goes beyond surface-level attraction; it involves shared values, common interests, and mutual respect. It's about finding someone who not only meets your criteria but also enhances your life in meaningful ways.
Choosing a partner who respects and cherishes your individuality is paramount. If you feel pressured to be someone you're not or if your values are disregarded, it's a clear sign that the relationship may not be healthy or sustainable in the long run.
Remember, your worth is not defined by anyone else's expectations or demands. Authenticity is key in any relationship, and compromising your values or identity for the sake of someone else is never worth it.
If you find yourself in a situation where your boundaries are not respected or your values are dismissed, remember that you have the power to prioritize your well-being and happiness. Your feelings, beliefs, and values are valid, and any relationship that undermines them is not worth your time and energy.
Ultimately, you deserve a relationship where you can be your true self, where your voice is heard, and where your heart feels at home. Don't settle for anything less than a connection that honors and uplifts you.
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